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Monday, February 20, 2017

How to Make Your #Arguments Effective--Guest Post by Lucy Adams


How to Make Your Arguments Effective to Convince People
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Welcome to Lucy Adams from BuzzEssay, here today with a guest post.

There are a lot of different books and training on how to be successful. Many aim to achieve it through thick and thin, but very few notice that all that they need is the skill of convincing. Yes, convincing and nothing more!

Knowing how to manipulate and change opinions of others, you’ll easily reach personal goals. So if you’re dreaming of becoming a master of conviction, this article is just for you!

To begin with, let’s state that the structure of persuasion consists of three key elements – thesis, arguments, and support. Use them wisely, and you’ll be able to change the position of others towards what you say and do.

#1 Thesis

A thesis is the point of view you want to convey to the audience. Try to state it briefly, clearly, and within one sentence. For example, let’s imagine you say, "Fast food is unhealthy." Of course, that’s not enough! Explain why you think so. People usually take little for granted, except the well-known axioms that are difficult to argue.

#2 Argumentation

Argumentation is the most complicated stage of convincing, which is carried out to change the position of the interlocutor. It’s used with respect to the social context (if you’re the boss, it’s unlikely that you’ll convince your subordinate of something as you can just put him before the fact).
There are also situations when a person simply does not have enough information to change his position. And when you disclose some additional data, he changes his view. Actually, in this case, you just give information, not using any other tricks.

Argumentation can be either theoretical (based on logical reasoning) or empirical (relying on practice or experience). So how to build your proof? The rules are quite simple:

·     First of all, you should prepare in advance. Approach to the matter seriously – write down all your arguments, and then distribute them into four groups:
o   Safety (for example, a guarantee).
o  Respect (how the person will fill after taking your point of view or buying your product).
o   Independence (the positive implications).
o   Perfection (how the person can use his potential due to the change of his/her previous point of view to yours).

At first glance, these concepts are quite abstract and in some cases even stretched, but they are actively and quite successfully used in sales when you need to convince a potential customer to buy some product or service.

·    Once you divide all your arguments into the four groups, check whether they give comprehensive answers to the following questions:
o   What problems does your statement/thesis solve?
o   Is it convenient for the opponent to take your point of view? Will it be worth much to the interlocutor?
o   Have you provided the interlocutor with enough information so that he/she can safely take your position?


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If you have clear answers to all these questions while the arguments are backed up and related to safety, respect, independence and perfection, most likely, you’ll be able to persuade the other person.

Now let’s get back to the example. You should explain the thesis using several arguments, ideally three. These may be:

·      Substandard products are used for cooking.
·      Fast food contains many preservatives.
·      Fast food contains harmful flavor enhancers.

#3 Support

Any argument becomes much more significant if you prove it. For this purpose, you can use statistics, personal experience, reviews, references to authoritative sources, documents and so on. For example:
·      After I had lunch at a fast food restaurant, I had a stomach ache.
·      The doctor said that consuming a lot of cheeseburgers leads to gastritis.
·      According to "XXX" documentary, fast food restaurant use poor-quality raw materials.

The main requirement at this stage is that the provided information must be truthful and not contrary to the arguments.

Some oratory masters believe that the three stages of conviction should strictly follow each other, some say that this sequence is not important. Also, there is the following technique:

·      Thesis->Argument no.1 + Support no.1, Argument no.2 + Support no.2, Argument no.3 + Support no.3, summary concerning the thesis in the beginning.


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Well, the most important is that all these strategies work! The main point is that you should rely on your personal experience and context of the particular situation when choosing between them.   

Bio:

Lucy Adams is a blogger from BuzzEssay – a website that provides research paper writing and many other writing services. She’s an aspiring author who never refuses to cover intriguing themes, regardless of their origin. Education, literature, business, psychology – whatever – if you have something exciting to suggest, Lucy will bring it to life! Contact this diligent author at lucyadams@buzzessay.com

Thursday, February 16, 2017

FORBIDDEN by @FeatherWrites #NewRelease #Thriller #Free

Welcome to Forbidden’s book launch celebration hosted by F. Stone

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February 14th to 18th at AMAZON

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Year 2047, City of Samarra, capital of the Republic of Islamic Provinces & Territories Fifteen American travelers have vanished. Surrendering to Mayor Aamir's demands, Captain Sharif becomes the reluctant keeper of his city’s bloody secret – and the witness, Eliza MacKay. The devout Muslim is horrified to discover that if he exposes the cover-up, his family will suffer dire consequences. The CIA has the lying Sharif in their cross hairs. Sharif’s only hope is to prove his country's government is free of guilt. Secretly, he hunts forensic evidence. Cryptic messages, backstabbing informants, and corruption threaten Sharif’s resolve to see justice served. When he discovers the shocking truth, he and MacKay become the targets of a ruthless killer. Sharif is tortured by his attraction to the impetuous Eliza MacKay. In spite of her struggle with PTSD, he’s drawn to her vivacious personality. Islam forbids the intimacy he craves. In desperation to save Eliza, Sharif plots an act most forbidden and fatal.

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February 13:

Review by Lily Eva Blake

February 14:

Guest Post with Pat Garcia
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February 16:

Review and Showcase with Nicki Elson
Showcase with Jennifer Lane

February 17:

Showcase with Nancee Cain
Interview with Tyler Wiegmann

February 18:

Review and Showcase with Yolanda Renee
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Romance Under Fire Author Feather Stone / F. Stone / Judy Weir:

1-b078f2221d6ec0463539f01708b9e727On our cattle ranch, when an animal was in distress or injured, I was put in charge of nursing it back to health. Never mind that I was just a kid and hated the sight of blood, but I had to muster up the courage to apply home remedies. My survival rate was pretty good. It seemed like a foregone conclusion that I would progress to nursing – humans. After one year into nurses training, I bolted. Bed pans and chronic diseases pushed me in different direction; a career of dealing with drug addicts, murder, suicide, fatalities, and biker gangs. In 1983 I graduated with honors as a paramedic and worked in the City of Edmonton’s Emergency Services.The Guardian's Wildchild For the next twenty years, I came face to face with scenes most people would rather not think about. I loved it. Having experienced life in the most deadly and gut wrenching events, and work alongside the police service, I gained the fodder for creating intense novels. My first novel, The Guardian’s Wildchild, was published by Omnific Publishing in 2011. The setting is on a naval ship, under the command of a surely man who is under suspicion of treason. When a battered woman is brought to his ship for execution, he has no idea that she is about to turn his disciplined life into chaos – and that she is no ordinary woman. The Guardian’s Wildchild has a rating of 4.1 at Amazon.

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Sunday, February 5, 2017

February #FREE for All Event #Sports #Romance BLOCKED

Welcome to the February FREE for All Event February 5-9, 2017!


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Thank you for being loyal readers! To show their appreciation, your favorite authors have come together to offer a book for FREE. Download one or all. Maybe you'll find your next favorite author.

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Wednesday, February 1, 2017

#IWSG How Does Writing Affect Your Reading?


Welcome to February's edition of Insecure Writers Support Group, the brainchild of Alex Cavanaugh. Hop on board at Alex's blog!


How was your January? I had to replace my furnace/AC/water heater and let's just say I'm relieved I don't have to survive on my measly author income after getting that bill. Luckily the system died when we had unseasonably warm temperatures in Ohio.

Are you ready for Singles Awareness Day on February 14th?



February Question: How has being a writer changed your experience as a reader?

Positive change: A greater appreciation for well-written books.

Negative change: Less enjoyment of many books. Before starting as a writer, I didn't notice misspellings (like blond/blonde) or excessive verbiage. In the past, I skipped over cliches and telling instead of showing. Now those errors disgust me.

I feel fortunate fellow authors had the patience to read my debut novel, considering all my fledgling writer mistakes. I just re-edited With Good Behavior and chopped off 33,000 words, yahoo! The manuscript is with my publisher for a copy edit before we re-release it.

Speaking of revising, my website is over six years old and in need of an overhaul. Any web designers you'd recommend?

Thank you to this month's co-hosts:

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

WHEN IT HITS YOU (It Series #1) by @NickiElson3D #contemporary #romance #NewRelease


I'm so pleased to have my critique partner, NICKI ELSON, here to tell you about her new book! I adored this book (see my 5 star review.) Thank you to author Darcia Helle for this f'in blog post idea. Take it away, Nicki:

Thank you, Jen, for having me over to celebrate the release of WHEN IT HITS YOU (a new edition of the novel formerly known as Vibrizzio). Reacquiring my rights to this story allowed me to re-brand with an emphasis on the love story. I'm so excited to have it join its sister books in The It Series: WHEN IT HOOKS YOU and WHEN IT HOLDS YOU.

For today's post, Jen gave me ten F-words to relate to one of my characters. I chose Lyssa Bates, the lead in WHEN IT HITS YOU.


F'ing Lyssa

Something about Lyssa that is...

1. Frightful - She dumps a shocking amount of cream in her coffee.

2. Favorable - She's the kind of friend who'll whisk your drunken ass away from embarrassment.

3. Flamboyant - She gets saucy on the dance floor with the sexy cousin of the groom.

4. Factual - She's' a youngest child.

5. Fanatical - She becomes a little too attached to her battery-operated boyfriend.

6. Feisty - Her first line of defense: sarcasm. Lots of sarcasm.

7. Formidable - She'll rise to a challenge, whether it's taking the lead in the boardroom or rocking "the lawnmower" on the dance floor.

8. False - She pulls on a fake smile when her mother and sister get under her skin.

 9. Fierce - She's not afraid to call people out...unless one of those people is her mother or sister.

10. Frustrating - She can't see herself the way Hayden does.

WHEN IT HITS YOU

Electronic. That’s how my love life was supposed to stay. Just me and my B.O.B.s (battery-operated boyfriends, if you don’t know). I didn’t expect to get partnered at work with the Adonis in Ralph Lauren. And I certainly never thought he’d turn out to be anything but an arrogant jerk.

Lyssa Bates doesn’t need a man. The twenty-six-year-old financial analyst is more than fulfilled by her career, friends, and a ready supply of double-A batteries. Her relationship with Hayden King is purely professional—and that’s how she intends to keep it. But accidental kisses in Dallas, all-nighters in Chicago, and hot tub confessions in Baltimore mess with her head and shake her resistance. Especially when he turns his charms full on her.

Why is it that whenever you’re not looking for love, that’s exactly when it hits you? ~Lyssa

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Wednesday, January 4, 2017

#IWSG Writing Rules


Happy New Year! Time for January's Insecure Writer's Support Group.



Join us! Sign up at creator Alex Cavanaugh's website.

How's your writing? I decided to re-edit my debut novel, With Good Behavior. It's taking me a long time because it's so bad! Adverb abuse abounds.

JANUARY 4TH QUESTION: What writing rule do you wish you’d never heard?

Since I got into this writing thing as a lark, I haven't been big on rules.

One rule I wish I followed more was to limit adverbs. *see above*

But one rule I wish I'd never heard?


My day job as a psychologist doesn't leave me the time or energy to write every day, and all this "rule" does is to jack up guilt. 

I agree that writing is a muscle--the more we write, the better we get. But we each need to find our own writing schedule.

I mostly write on weekends, and that works for me. 

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Midwinter's Eve #Giveaway Hop



Welcome to the Midwinter's Eve Giveaway Hop! Thanks to Mary from Book Hounds for hosting.

I for one am excited the days will get longer after Winter Solstice. The short daylight is my least favorite part of winter. But I love cozying up in fleece and sipping hot drinks.

I'm giving away a $10 gift card and a Jennifer Lane ebook of the winner's choice. I write sports romance and romantic suspense with a psychological twist. Check out college volleyball romance BLOCKED for only $.99.



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Sunday, December 18, 2016

New Release! FOR ALL THE EVERS by @Debra_Anastasia #romance




Title: For All the Evers
Author: Debra Anastasia
Genre: Romance
Release Date: December 18, 2016



Blurb

Fallen Billow should be in college like most of her friends, but instead she’s raising her brother and working as a housekeeper at a vintage local hotel. It’s back-breaking work, but not nearly as challenging as fending off unwanted advances from the hotel’s owner.

Thomas McHugh is fighting for our country, across the globe and decades before Fallen Billow was even born. So there’s no way they’re soul mates. There’s no way he can be desperate to see her, hold her, kiss her. Except there is.

Is it a dream when he inks his name on her skin? Is it a delusion when she puts her hands on his face and says she loves him? Nothing has ever felt more real.

Fate has etched paths for Thomas and Fallen that even time cannot touch. A Purple Heart proclaims Thomas’ valor and bravery. And his death. But Fallen dares to dream of the impossible. She wants Thomas to stay. Just stay.

A tribute to all who have served our country, this novel honors the impossible beauty of love and the endless power of hope. Come open your heart and celebrate the many facets of bravery with Fallen and Thomas.




Congratulations to Debra!!!

Debra Anastasia has created a website for Thomas McHugh - the veteran the book is in honor of. (It is recommended readers look at this website after reading the book)






Purchase Links

AMAZON US / UK / CA / AU

Available in Kindle Unlimited





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Excerpt

“I bet you were adorable.” He put his knuckle under her chin and encouraged her to lift her head. She rolled back over and settled against his shoulder.

“I don’t want to be adorable. I want to be impossible.”

“How do you mean?” He kissed her forehead.

“I want to be impossible for you to forget, impossible for you to keep your hands off of.” She leaned up for a kiss.

“You’re my impossible then. Have no fear.” He tenderly reminded her he was her impossible, too, with his lips.

She put her hand against his stomach and snuggled in. “This is my spot. Right here. With you—it’s home.”

He swallowed before talking to the ceiling. “My heart was like a fist. Where I am? It’s not a place you plan to survive. I’ve been there for years, and it’s not about skill; it’s not even about luck. You get strapped into a machine, and fate’s driving. You can’t get out even if you want to. So you submit to it. You harden your soul. You get ready to die.”

He shifted, rolling on top of her. She sighed in contentment. Being beneath him made her feel safe and secure.

He kissed her lips, then the tip of her nose, before continuing. “But with you, it’s like my heart’s opening up, and I’m terrified to feel, after all this time. Yet I don’t have a choice. No matter where I am, I draw your face whenever I get a scrap of paper.”

He laughed a little. “We found a puppy, and I named it Fallen, just so I could say your name over and over. The guys think I’m crazy—such a strange name for a dog. But I don’t care. I’m gasping for you every moment I’m awake. And I’m making choices to keep me alive through the week.”

His eyes searched hers. “What if I’m not as tough as I was in the beginning? God, I hope no one is affected by my distraction with this. But in the end there’s you. Only you. Do what you have to to get back to me when you’re awake. You have to. I need you more than air, more than life right now. The softness of you, the tenderness in your eyes when you see me. I’m trying to force fate to throw me in your direction. To hurl me at you somehow. I don’t know if it will work. But I’m praying for it.”

Fallen touched his face, then his neck. “I will do everything I can to find you.”





Author Bio

Debra creates pretend people in her head and paints them on the giant, beautiful canvas of your imagination. What an amazing job that is. The stories hit her hard while driving the minivan or shaving her legs, especially when there's no paper and pen around. In all of the lies she writes she hides her heart, so thank you for letting it play in your mind.

Debra has now published the Seraphim Series, the Poughkeepsie Brotherhood Series, the Gynazule Series, The Revenger and Booty Camp Dating Service. Her novella, Late Night with Andres is special because 100% of the proceeds go to breast cancer research. (So go get it right now, please!) For All The Evers is her latest romantic suspense.

You can find her at DebraAnastasia.com and on Twitter @Debra_Anastasia. But be prepared...



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There is a giveaway for signed paperback of For All the Evers and Saving Poughkeepsie, signed hand crafter holiday ornaments, Booty Camp Dating Service ring, Poughkeepsie lip balm and cardboard keychain, and XL One More Chapter t-shirt




 


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