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Friday, August 17, 2018

Cover Reveal: THE REDIRECTION OF DAMIEN SINCLAIR by @Nancee_Cain #romance #series

Congratulations to my pub sister, Nancee Cain, on this very interesting cover for her new release! I've loved books one (The Resurrection of Dylan McAthie), two (The Redemption of Emma Devine), and three (The Rehabilitation of Angel Sinclair) in this series. I'm eager to dive into book four!

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Damien Sinclair has witnessed more than his share of love's ugly aftermath—first as a child of quarreling parents and these days as an acclaimed divorce attorney. His solution? Control. From his immaculate, organized penthouse to his monochromatic wardrobe to his refusal to let anyone get too close, Damien is master of all he sees… Or so he thinks. Then an attempt on his life leaves him struggling with PTSD.

Free-spirited Harley Taylor, Damien’s childhood friend and a one-time fling, arrives on his doorstep, having appointed herself his caregiver. She’s his polar opposite and hell bent on redirecting his life. And if somehow that life might expand to include her for the long term, even better. Either way, the man needs to learn not to take himself so seriously. If that involves a prank or two, so be it.

Interacting for the first time in a decade, Harley and Damien find their attraction still smoldering. But to what end? Is Harley the shot of color Damien needs to disperse the black cloud that plagues him? Or are they destined to destroy each other all over again?

Releases 9/14/18 on most platforms 

Friday, August 10, 2018

Best #Self-Help Strategies for People in Recovery

Thank you to Charles Watson for the guest post on self-help strategies for recovering from addiction! Take it away, Charles:

Best Self-Help Strategies for People in Recovery

People are often taught to seek help when experiencing a recovery crisis. Although this is advisable at the beginning, it can also be helpful to perform some self-help strategies to boost chances of recovery. Read further to find out what you can do.

Self-help is a topic that is often explored in improving one's wellness, business, or other individualistic pursuit. There are countless books and resources published in the topic of self-help, and it can sometimes be overwhelming which strategies are helpful for someone who has specific needs.

What is self-help?

Self-help, by definition, is using one's own resources and will power to achieve things without the seeking the need of other people. This concept can be applied in many areas of your life while in recovery, such as forming of healthy habits, productivity, improving relationships, and many others.

Although it is understandable that you will still need the help of professionals when it comes to looking out for your health, there are some aspects of yourself that can be improved only through your choice. When you choose to better yourself, it helps you take another step towards recovery success.

What are the benefits of self-help strategies in recovery?

Self-help can supplement other recovery methods.

Self-help tools can aid your other recovery plans, such as those imposed to you if you go to a rehabilitation center. For example, a nutritionist may provide you with a diet plan that you should follow for recovery.

Accompanying this with self-help strategies to improve your sleeping habits can further aid in your health and increase your chances for recovery.

It can provide you with the motivation you need.

Many people find themselves motivated at the initial part of a rehabilitation period. However, as time goes by and the challenges to stay sober increase, it may be difficult to be on the right track.

Adopting self-help strategies could alleviate this lack of motivation and could give you the habit-forming tools to stay away from your old habits.

It can give you a strengthened mental perspective.

One of the cornerstones of self-help is discipline and control, and this is what you need on your road to recovery. Having a strong mental perspective gives you the ability to resist all kinds of temptations especially after you get away from rehabilitation centers or other controlled environments.

The ability to say "no" can be hard to achieve if you don't have a strong mind. Acquiring a strong mind through self-help may be beneficial to your success.

Having mentioned all these self-help benefits, what are some of the best strategies in this area that can push you towards your goal?

What are self-help strategies to use for recovery?

Have a reality check about your substance abuse.

The most common hurdle for people who are undergoing addiction is their denial to the extent of their current state. As a person who is constantly taking substances, you need to admit that you have an addiction. Admitting to yourself that you need help is the first step in understanding and accepting the steps that you need to take for progress.

The most common signs that you have substance addiction are:
       Interference of drug use to your daily life
       Consistent use of substances even when it's no longer prescribed or recommended
       Taking steps, even if morally wrong, to acquire substances such as drugs or alcohol
       Loss of control or irrational thoughts due to substance use
       Engaging in reckless behavior
       Physical health problems due to malnutrition on continued substance use

Read self-help addiction recovery material.

There are many inspirational and motivational books about addiction recovery that can help you get started with improving your mental strength. A lot of these books can vary in content--some of them contain touching stories of those who succeeded, and other have more specific steps you can take during the process of recovery.

These self-help books are meant to help you see the consequences of further addiction, make you understand how your addiction works, and what are some small habits you can pick up to keep yourself sober. Some of the top best sellers are:

       The Naked Mind: Control Alcohol by Annie Grace
       Integral Recovery by John Dupuy
       Awakening the Brain by Charlotte Tomaino
       Clean: Overcoming Addiction and Ending America's Greatest Tragedy by David Sheff

Explore these titles and see which ones are applicable to you.

Attend self-help groups.

Another strategy that can help people to succeed in recovery is attending self-help groups. When it comes to fighting addiction, having a support group is essential to help build accountability towards each other.

Many self-help groups have people who did not necessarily go to rehab centers to fight their problems. A lot of them listened to others, found emotional strength through each other’s support, or found that socialization is a great occupation to keep them away from substances.

Some of the popular self-help groups are Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous. If you already have a rehab center that you're currently attending, there may be support groups available to your current demographic and personal needs. Alternatively, there are also non 12 step rehab centers offering holistic services with support groups to help those in recovery.

Replace old habits with new ones.

Addiction is not about removal, but rather replacement. When you simply remove something in your life, that specific void will always have a need to be filled. This is why going cold turkey against substances often prove to be ineffective because people fail to replace their old habits with healthy ones.

A self-help strategy that is also applied in many rehab centers is searching for habits that help people stay away from drugs and alcohol. For example, instead of taking in drugs, people can pursue other hobbies such as going to the gym, adopting a pet, or attending events. Being idle can play tricks in your head, and make you feel like there's a sense of lack. Research shows that you need a minimum of 21 days to establish a good habit in your daily routine.

Help yourself on the road to recovery

The road to recovery is comprised of many elements--seeking help from others, following specific steps, and having the self-motivated decision to succeed. As these elements come together, you will have better chances of taking the path towards addiction recovery.

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

#IWSG Plentiful Publication Pitfalls

Happy August, writers! Join the Insecure Writer's Support Group at Alex Cavanaugh's blog.

Thank you to this month's courageous co-hosts:

I love this month's question: What pitfalls would you warn other writers to avoid on their publication journey?

I've faced publication pitfalls galore so I hope that sharing them will help newbie authors avoid them. Here are beliefs that put the pain in publishing:

1) "I've got this writing thing." I thought my debut novel was well-written. It wasn't. WRITING IS A CRAFT. It takes years of developing the craft even to knock on the door of good writing. I feel more confident in my day job after over twenty years of experience, so why did I think I was competent at writing after only a few fledgling years of fan fiction? Fortunately I had the opportunity to re-edit my debut novel seven years later, so at least now I can read it without cringing.

2) "My book should hit the shelves soon." I pride myself in finishing tasks efficiently and often feel impatient when others don't do the same. The fact is that publishing is full of excruciating waits. Waiting for...responses to queries, publication contracts, multiple rounds of editing (fortunately my editor is super speedy--love her!), proofreading, cover design, book design, marketing materials, marketing assistants...and that's before the book is even released. Not to mention it's rare (and often requires years of persistence) to publish with a large publisher who gets your book on shelves.

3) "It's clear when a book is good or bad." Reading is so subjective! What one reader loves, another hates. Regarding one of my brash heroes, one reviewer said, "Where can I get a Dane in my life?" whereas another said, "Dane is the WORST hero I have ever read about." I felt proud of the writing in my latest release--too bad it has been my worst seller. Considering the subjectivity and flooded market, we need to write the stories in our hearts instead of wondering what readers will like or buy.

One common thread through all of my pitfalls is expectations. I wish I could quiet my planner brain and live more in the present. I don't know much about Buddhism, but one friend described it as "letting go of expectations". Sounds like a good way to live and write.


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