Happy Monday! I'm in Ft. Myers, Florida for a long weekend with my swimming buddy Eric, having a wonderful vacation. Yesterday we went to spinning class, attended church then a mother's day brunch with his parents, walked on the beach and swam in the ocean, golfed a few holes, then went out to dinner. A lovely day!
The pastor's sermon at church spoke to me. He discussed taking our God-given talents to do our best -- to do "good enough" for God. The sermon encouraged us to work harder, honoring our higher power by demonstrating excellent work with the skills and talents provided to us, whether it's Yo Yo Ma on the cello or a housekeeper cleaning the floor to a brilliant shine.
The sermon made me think about psychology and writing. I had a slightly different take: how can we be good enough without being perfectionists? I'm a hard worker by nature (though you might not know that since I'm on vacation right now!) and I can be rather hard on myself. My psychotherapy clients also tend to be perfectionists, excessively cruel and harsh in their self-talk. Such perfectionism and self-criticism can prevent us from serving God with our talents. I believe doing our best often involves being gentler and more compassionate with ourselves.
As writers, we sometimes become paralyzed by internal pressure and perfectionism. Staring at that blank page with tension radiating through us, wanting desperately to impress our readers, demanding the flow of perfect words on that first draft...it doesn't work!
Doing my best as a writer means letting the words come one after another without second-guessing and excessive editing on the first draft. Doing my best means finding my voice as a writer, not trying to emulate the voice of another author who has different God-given talents. Doing my best means appreciating my unique skills and being grateful for the opportunity to create.
May we all strive to be good enough today!
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The pastor's sermon at church spoke to me. He discussed taking our God-given talents to do our best -- to do "good enough" for God. The sermon encouraged us to work harder, honoring our higher power by demonstrating excellent work with the skills and talents provided to us, whether it's Yo Yo Ma on the cello or a housekeeper cleaning the floor to a brilliant shine.
The sermon made me think about psychology and writing. I had a slightly different take: how can we be good enough without being perfectionists? I'm a hard worker by nature (though you might not know that since I'm on vacation right now!) and I can be rather hard on myself. My psychotherapy clients also tend to be perfectionists, excessively cruel and harsh in their self-talk. Such perfectionism and self-criticism can prevent us from serving God with our talents. I believe doing our best often involves being gentler and more compassionate with ourselves.
As writers, we sometimes become paralyzed by internal pressure and perfectionism. Staring at that blank page with tension radiating through us, wanting desperately to impress our readers, demanding the flow of perfect words on that first draft...it doesn't work!
Doing my best as a writer means letting the words come one after another without second-guessing and excessive editing on the first draft. Doing my best means finding my voice as a writer, not trying to emulate the voice of another author who has different God-given talents. Doing my best means appreciating my unique skills and being grateful for the opportunity to create.
May we all strive to be good enough today!
It's Monday, time for the Meet an Author Monday Blog Hop. Head over to Lisa Sanchez's blog for instructions and please join us.
Comments
Hope you're enjoying your time off!!
Nicki, I like what you said about trusting God to give you what you need. :)
Enjoy your vacation!
Darcia, I think the same thing after an amazing book--why can't I write that way? Then I have to remind myself that it's okay to write MY way!
Have a lovely week!
Gorgeous pool and weather! Sounds (and looks) like you had a fantastic long weekend. :)
I think there is a big difference between striving for excellence in everything you do (be it ‘big’ or ‘small’) …and being overly critical of yourself.
We tend to be hard on ourselves (to motivate ourselves to do better?) but are far kinder / patient / less judgmental of other people in the same situation – especially those we love. We’re supposed to love ourselves, so surely we should be treating ourselves the same way? We should remember, when we have harsh or negative self talk, that God created each of us in His own image -- so we're insulting / degrading His creation!
As a reader, I know that a HUGE part of a book is the storyline and characters created. It makes sense that a writer would spill out all his/her creativity on the page, get the plot moving and have the characters constructed in his/her head – and then go back later to the words/sentences and edit the writing to re-construct it / make it flow more smoothly.
I hope you writers can let loose and enjoy the first (creative, storytelling) part, and then go back with your toothpicks, letting you’re A-type personalities take over for a while! ;) The most important thing, of course, is to stick to YOUR voice and not try to give people what you think they want to read. The best way to ensure that you please nobody is if you try to please EVERYBODY! :P
Thanks for the insightful, thought-provoking post, Jen! And happy happy Saturday! :)
Janine
It is curious that we're so much harder on ourselves than on others. I wonder why that is?
Whatever your method would be, it works perfectly for me!
I enjoy so much your stories/characters, it seems so easy, so obvious, ...
I'm sure it's like a ballerina, you suffer like hell in your ballet shoes, but once on stage you spread magic on the audience!
I thank you very much for your talent, and for sharing it with me, whose writing talent is hidden by the typos :)
As for your latter question : why are we harder on ourselves than on others, we have a saying in French : qui aime bien chatie bien (the one who loves well, chastisise well) I guess it's because we love ourselves a lot after all :)
[official translation for the saying : Spare the rod and spoil the child]
Cécile
Yeah, those ballet shoes are killin' me sometimes! Hee hee. Thank you so much for reading my work and for all the encouragement.
Interesting French phrase. So true that we can be very critical of our loved ones, so maybe our extreme demands on ourselves do mean that we love ourselves! ;P