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Wednesday, May 1, 2019

#IWSG The Power of Language and New Anthology


Ho hey, it's MAY! My favorite season of summer is upon us, and I can't wait to swim in the sunshine and absorb vitamin D.

Just yesterday, Dancing Lemur Press released the latest IWSG anthology, Masquerade: Oddly Suited. I'm delighted to join nine authors penning short stories. Check out all of the blogs to read blurbs and learn more about these diverse, engaging characters!

Myles Christensen www.myleschristensen.com

Thanks to Alex Cavanaugh for starting this awesome support group. Sign up HERE.

IWSG Day Question:
What was an early experience where you learned that language had power? 

Wow, this question provokes thought. One time that stands out for me is when I learned to be a therapist in grad school. I remember my supervisors teaching me the importance of language for accurate listening and building rapport with my clients. I learned to use the same words as my clients--if they say, "That pissed me off!" then I reply, "You were pissed off." But I also developed the skill of listening to the unsaid words, empathizing with something like, "Underneath your anger is a deep sense of hurt."

Thank you to the awesome co-hosts for the May 1 posting of the IWSG:

Lee Lowery, Juneta Key, Yvonne Ventresca, and T. Powell Coltrin 

19 comments:

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

That training probably really helps you as a writer.
Congratulations again on the anthology.

Roland D. Yeomans said...

Mirroring is a great way of letting the other person feel they are being accurately heard, isn't it? Congrats on being in the anthology! As both a former teacher and counselor, I learned early on how important language and the right words were. Your latest novel looks intriguing.

The Cynical Sailor said...

I trained as a developmental coach and we focused a lot on the power of words. Working in organizational development, I really learned about how important it was to choose my own words carefully and listen carefully to the ones others used.

Jennifer Lane said...

Alex, maybe? But of course I have needed to learn a LOT about writing to try to get better.

Roland, yes! Mirroring is so powerful. I wish more of us knew how to use it. Thank you! Do you miss your teaching and counseling days?

Hi, Ellen! I can imagine language is very important on a sailboat as well!

J.Q. Rose said...

Listening and understanding is so important in a conversation. Someone told me God gave us TWO ears for listening and only one mouth for talking! Congrats on the anthology!!
JQ Rose

Lee Lowery said...

Congrats on your inclusion in the anthology! I can't wait to read all the delicious stories of our talented authors.

Great example for communication. Even though we may be speaking the same language, people don't always hear the same thing. Nothing annoys me more than for someone to reinterpret something I've said with words that don't convey the same meaning. (So what you're really saying is . . .)

Natalie Aguirre said...

Yes, your words are definitely important when you're a therapist. That was true for me too as an attorney.

Congrats on the anthology. I will offer it as a choice in my next book hop giveaway this month.

Rosemary Johnson said...

I remember being told to repeat back words used by people I was counselling too. This was when i was doing teacher training. It’s good advice, actually, developing a rapport between the two of you.

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Dealing with people means knowing how to deal with them where they are and at their level, which obviously you do.

Sarah Foster said...

Congrats on the anthology release!
That's interesting how you have to listen to what *isn't* being said.

Chrys Fey said...

I can see how language is important for a job like being a therapist. I used to want to be a therapist, before life threw some obstacles in my way that led me away from that.

Liza said...

It's so important to acknowledge what you hear. I can imagine that really helps, not only as a therapist, but in every day life!

Yvonne Ventresca said...

Congrats on your inclusion in the anthology!

F. Stone said...

I'm betting there are many people who have benefited from your kind and wise support. I'm wondering if there should be similar programs in high school curriculum that would help kids and people be better communicators. And better listeners, too. Blessings, Jen.

Ronel Janse van Vuuren said...

Congrats on the anthology!

That's an interesting technique to use someone's language to make them feel understood...

Ronel visiting for #IWSG day: Help Me, Please!

T. Powell Coltrin said...

Really all I want in life is to be heard, left alone to write and coffee. :) :)

Thanks for visiting me.

Juneta key said...

Very insightful perspective. I was viewing from the pov of the reader. Thanks for sharing.

S.A. Larsenッ said...

This really is a fabulous anthology. Loved them all!

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